During the many marriage conversations I had with Cathy and Tory, Cathy told me that she attended a marriage class and the instructor said that there were four things every married couple should do everyday. They are:
1-Have a meaningful hug
2-Have one kiss that lasts 10-15 seconds
3-Say ‘I Love You’
4-Have a 10-15 minute meaningful conversation
I added one more to the list….
5- Pray together everyday.
As part of my “change” I decided to try these. Guess what, they worked too! As I pondered on why they worked (one day in the shower) it occurred to me that those four things fulfill the needs of each spouse. Men, more physical, feel fulfilled with items 1 & 2. While women, more emotional, feel fulfilled with 3 & 4. I added #5 because that brings the spiritual aspect into the marriage. So now, everyday, you are fulfilling the physical, emotional and spiritual needs that a marriage needs to be strong and eternal. Again, I have seen such an improvement in our marriage. Having said that, I don’t mean to say we didn’t/don’t have a good marriage. I just realized that it’s these little things that turn a good marriage into a great marriage. And that each and every day I can do more little things, unselfish things, to make our marriage even greater. And you know what? Scott realized it too. We both just naturally started being less selfish with one another and the kids. It’s been a good, wonderful change and I’m liking it. I pray that I will never forget these things that I’ve learned.
Thanks for the great reminder of how to maintain a good marriage. I love the list!